It would all fall apart without me

Background: Moment of pride followed by quick reality check

“What would they do without me”? We’ve all thought it at some point. If you weren’t there, the house would be a pigpen. If you weren’t there, the company would fold. If you weren’t her friend, she wouldn’t have any. Well, the house would probably be a pigpen without you, but that won’t stop them from living in the mess, contently. The company may experience a downturn without you, but there’s another just as bright as you waiting to replace you. If you think that a friend will be friendless without you, you were never their friend to begin with.

Only pride would move us to say things like this, because the truth of the matter is, you can be replaced. We say prideful things when we think no one else can bear or tolerate what we have tolerated. Or in some cases we hoard responsibilities in order to keep people reliant on us. Pride comes before a great fall, so lets avoid the fall and humble ourselves. (Now there is a such thing as a good pride, and that’s ok. The kind that is grateful about ownership or participation in a thing, prompting you to share it with anyone that will listen). For some, humbling yourself may be delegating tasks to others so the sole responsibility for a thing doesn’t belong to you. For the rest of us, it’s being truthful to those around us regarding how we feel about the burden/load we carry. Pride carries a level of resentment with it towards someone or something. And where there is resentment there is unforgiveness which must be resolved.

Check yourself and make sure there are no areas in your life where you feel the need to say “What would they do without me”? If you find an area like that, review paragraph 2, look at the woman in the mirror and make that change.

References: Proverbs 31:26, Proverbs 31:15

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You just said a mouthful! Thanks friend.
This is so true and sometimes hard to admit because we take our focus off of God and think more highly of ourselves than we should. And that unforgiveness, you hit the nail on the head!

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